Did you know that reflecting on our habits can help us change our way of thinking? And that by consciously choosing to do what we want in our life and experiencing genuine satisfaction when we do it, we can change deeply ingrained behaviors that unbalance us, and do so permanently?
Scientists call it "self-directed neuroplasticity" and, in simple terms, it is the practice of intentionally reprogramming our brain by reflecting on how behaviors or habits make us feel.
And it's logical. Habits may seem impromptu, even spontaneous, but they are often triggered by signals and, above all, they lead to an associated behavior and a dopamine stimulus. In 1999, MIT psychologists broke down habitual behavior into a "cycle" in three steps: "signal, routine, reward".
Society perpetuates the myth that it is more difficult to change one's behaviors and habits as one grows older. How many times have we not heard the following murmur: "they are simply stuck in their ways"? How many times have we looked at a loved one thinking "he's too old to change"? You can't teach an old monkey new tricks... can you?
But, thanks to the beauty of our biology, our body is brilliantly adaptable. Our brains remain malleable throughout our lives. If we want to change our habits, we can do so. And we can increase our chances of success by consciously committing to it.
So, if you're looking to change something that is no longer working for you, or if you want to introduce a new habit that, as you know, will nourish you during menopause, here are three key tips to help you get started:
- Associate new habits with immediate RÉCOMPENSES; for example, do not listen to the next episode of your favorite audiobook unless you are running.
- Make sure you are clear on the 'why'; a conscious commitment requires that you have a clear perspective on the benefits of change. Take the time to make it tangible.
- THINK EXPLICITLY ABOUT WHAT YOU FEEL ABOUT THESE HABITS; what are the benefits of this change in behavior for you? And how do you feel about the effects of your old attitudes once the dopamine surge has passed? Note it down. Revisit it whenever you need to.
We directly perceive the potential of this new stage of life through the stories you share with us every day. If we are well supported, our forties can be a springboard for positive change. We still have time to catch up!
Through pedagogy and exploration, we can reshape our daily lives so that it nourishes us. And it begins when we allow ourselves to turn inward, to listen to ourselves.
With love, the üma team.
